*TAMMY* TODAY IT HAS BEEN SIX YEARS AND I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MORE THAN EVER EVERYDAY I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE AND HELP MY MOM THROUGH EACH DAY AND BE WITH MATT, ALYSSA, AND BRITTANY -EVERYDAY I WISH YO WERE HERE SO THAT I COULD TALK TO YOU ABOUT ANYTHING THAT I COULD NOT TELL ANYONE ELSE AND YOU WOULD I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND WISH YOU WERE WITH US - AND AGAIN I LOVE YOU MISS YOU ALOT
IM SO SAD AND IM SO SORRY / CHERI BROOKS FROM OHIO (angels) THE RIBBON REPRESENTS A MURDERED CHILD (P.OM.C.) AN ORGANIZATION FOR PARENTS OF MURDERED CHILDREN. ONLY PARENTS WHO HAVE LOST A DAUGHTER OR SON TO MURDER WOULD UNDERSTAND THE PAIN AND GRIEF OF LOSING A CHILD TO MURDER. ...........................................................................................IM SO SORRY FOR ALL OF YOU AND FOR THE SISTER WHO ALSO ALMOST LOST HER OWN LIFE THAT NIGHT WITH TAMMY,THIS IS SO SAD ,IT MADE TEARS IN MY EYES ,GOD BLESS ,LOVE,HUGS,AND TEARS .FROM A MOM IN OHIO
to tammy, / Amber Graham (her nieces best friend ) tammy, my name is amber. i am heather's best friend. heather told me about you a long time ago when we were just starting out friends. i am also brittanys friend. she goes to my church. when heather showed me a picture of you i immediately thought of brittany and how much she looks like you. Of all the stories heather has told me about you i always thought of how you always thought of your family. i know that all of the people in your family are greiving you, i am to but i am also happy at the same time cause i know where you are and knowing that gives me strength each day to know that one more good person got to heaven. i mean it when i say this that you have an amazing family one that loves you very much. since i don't always go on here. i figured i would tell you happy late mothers day and i know that you will watch over your family. we all love you. we will all see you soon.
amber graham
A Loss for Words.... / MaryEllen Staples (Sister) Tammy- There are so many things that I need to talk to you about- So much to share with you - so much I feel you have missed out on......But yet I know that you are in a better place and watching over all of us - but these last couple months I can't seem to find comfort in that - I can't find comfort in the fact that you are not here - you are not at your children's birthdays - you are not going to be taking Brittany to the 8th grade on the first day of school or you won't be giving Alyssa words of advice for the world of middle school or encouraging Matt-Matt to do good and have fun - you won't be making that phone call you made every year on the evening before school starts and wishing Heather the best on her first day of school. As I sit here and cry I know things are what they are and nothing I can do will bring you back but I know Nana sure could use a Tams hug - WE ALL COULD ! So until that day we meet again - know that every minute of everyday you are thought of and missed more than words can describe. I love you so very much and more with each passing day.
My sister & best friend, To tell you Happy Mother's Day seems so wrong. Today has been very sad for me so to imagine what Brittany, Alyssa, and Matt felt only breaks my heart more. You always made days like today so special. But from the time I got out of bed until this very minute I have missed you- I have hurt for you - I have hurt for all of the kids especially yours but mine too- they miss you - I felt so guilty even saying the word "happy mother's day" in front of them. When I put the flowers at your grave - Bubba and Summer helped and as we were walking back to the car- Britt drove up with Joan- all I could do was hold her tight and tell her how much I loved her - I hugged Joan and wished her a good day and then as I drove off - I watched your first born child putting beautiful balloons on your grave and crying on Mother's Day. I wish I could take away their pain - Please watch over us and know that we love you and miss you more everyday !!!!!!!!!!!!!
im so sorry / Cynthia Corbitt (none) im so sorry 4 ur loss i have a daughtur who is going throw some stuff like that with her live in boy friend i worry every day that he will take her life i dont even know y god lets man like that live here on this earth im so sorry 4 ur loss
Happy Valentines day I love you / Alyssa Staples (Middle Daughter )
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY MOMMY!!!!! WE MISS YOU MORE ANDMORE EACH DAY!!! WHEN IT IS A HOLIDAY THAT IS WHEN I MISS MORE. BECAUSE I THINK OF THE FUN THAT YOU MISS AND THAT IS EVEN THE MORE TIME THAT YOU COULD SPEND WITH ME AND MATT AND BRITT-BRITT. WELL WHEN COME MY BIRTHAY THAT WILL BE ONE MORE YEAR THAT I WILL MISS YOU DEARLY AND TO ME SIX BIRTHDAYS THAT YOU COULD OF SPENT WITH ME IF IT WORT FOR THE LAW AND THE MONSTER OF A HUMAN!!!!!!! IF THE LAW DID ITS JOB BETTER AND TAKE IT MORE SERIOUS THEN YOU WOULD NOT BE DEAD AT THIS VERY MOMENT THAT YOU COULD BE SPENDING WITH ME (ALYSSA) MATT AND BRITT-BRITT! BUT I WANT YOU TO KNOW HOW MUCH THAT I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MORE AND MORE EACH DAY!!!!!! OKAY MOMMY I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU SO AS I SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT KEEP YOUR EYE ON ME AS YOU DO ANYWAY!!!!!! LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER ALYSSA YOUR MIDDLE DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Days Go BY / Julie Wright (Aunt) Tammy has been on my mind for days now,I have been thinking about all she knows now that we have yet to learn.The thought of her loss& what she would tell us for me it is live the lives we been given,love the people we know,make a difference leave our mark.I thought if I came and put it in words it would stop repeating in my head. Because we all think we have tommorow but we know we only have today for sure....Today is all we've been given so we best start living.I always think I will do this tommorow,I will go visit so&so later. I will work on my fear of what ever it maybe but I have this nagging thought of stop putting it off do it now......Live now .....So There it is ....Happy valentines day to you Miss Tammy........
Struggles.../ Mary Staples-Jeffcoat (Sister) Tams-I miss u so much. This time of year has nothing to do with your death or your birth but I miss u more than ever but I know when I wake up tomorrow I will miss you even more. I started scrapbooking after you died and I have really loved it and enjoyed it. You know how I love taking pictures of our precious children. Then the other day - your Brittany - our beautiful young 7th grader who is so strong willed & has so much of you in her - was spending the night with Heather (I thankd God everyday that they are friends like you & I were) but anyways back to my story Brittany said "Aunt Mary-you have made all of the neices and nephews scrapbooks except for me, Matt, and Syssa". OH MY GOSH- Tammy I felt awful like I had carelessly looked over them but after going to the store and buying 3 scrapbooks and getting there pictures together- I truly believe my subconcious is to blame -I always begin my scrapbooks with a piece of advice for life & their future and what I wish for them and then when I got to the 2nd part which is the birth page - My heart fell to my stomach as it did the night your lifeless head lay in my lap but as I placed & displayed such extraordinary-beautiful moments & pictures on that page bragging about you had giving birth to your first born but yet you are already gone........ that is so wrong and so unfair but I have made a promise to all 3 of them to complete these books - I pray that you will give me the strength to portray the love you showed in such little time that you had here with them on earth. I died with you that night - I know that now for a fact - a part of me truly is gone forever - I need you - I want you - I miss you !!!! I know one day we will all be a family again but until that glorious day - Please be with us & give us the strength to get through each minute. All my Love - Your big Sis - Mary
Today of all days I miss you and the memories we would make every Christmas season. I know you are in a better place and that you are home but I guess that would make me homesick then. Your babies had a Wonderful Christmas & Mom being the trooper she is puts on that "Santa" hat and does her thing but Christmas will never be the same for any of us again. With lots of love - I miss you SIs !!!!!!
MY CHILD / SELMA FLYNN(POMC) BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend) "MY child
On the day God took you
I thought that I would die
I wondered where the time went?
I asked alot of whys??
With people all around me
I felt alone inside
From all their words of comfort,
I couldn't seem to hide, I thought I might be dreaming
That I'd wake and find you here,
I thought "This can't be happening."
As I wiped another tear.
On the day that you were laid to rest
My heart broke yet again,
I wondered if the pain would end,
But mostly, I wondered when??
It's hard to be without you,
At times the days seem long,
Sometimes I just sit crying,
When there's really nothing wrong.
I wish we'd had more time,
Before your life was done.
I hope your resting peacefully,
My precious child,
Dancing with the angels / Julie Wright (Aunt)
Memories surround me,but sadness has found me,I'd do anything for more time.Never before has someone meant more and I can't get you out of my mind.There is so much I don't understand,but I know You're dancing with the angels,walking in new life, dancing with the angels,heaven fills your eyes. You had love for your family,love for all people,love for the Father and the Son. Your heart will be heard in your unspoken words through generations to come. There's so much I don't understand,but I know we're only here for such a short time and I know one day I'll see you again. "Monk & Neagle" This is the song I play to remind me that in Christ there is no end & our family's will be together again. I can't listen to this with a dry eye yet. The first time I heard it on the radio I had to find this and get it It put your death into some perspective for me. There is so much we don't understand. Someday maybe we will see the why's. I Just know for me this song was comforting. Your spirit will echo through the generations. Your daughters will become strong smart loving women Just like they're mother. Your Mathew will be a strong smart Loving man. Your in thier hearts and they are in good loving care . you are missed & loved
I'M SO VERY SORRY XX / YVONNE BRADY SCOTLAND (PASSING THROUGH )Read >>
I'M SO VERY SORRY XX / YVONNE BRADY SCOTLAND (PASSING THROUGH )
JAMES BRADY'S DAUGHTER, I'M SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR PRETTY LOVED ONE, SHE SOUNDS LIKE A LOVING MOTHER, BLESS HER CHILDREN WHO LIVE IN HER MEMORY, YOUR STORY BROUGHT MANY TEARS TO MY EYES, I FEEL SAD BECAUSE MY I'M GRIEVING FOR MY LATE FATHER BUT 8 WKS AFTER HIS PASSING MY ONLY BROTHER GOT ATTACKED AND WAS LEFT FOR DEAD, THREE MIDDLE AGED MEN SLIT HIS THROAT AND FACE, PUNCHERED HIS LUNGS AND LIVER, HE WAS NOT TO LIVE THROUGH THE NIGHT, BUT HE WAS 80% RECOVERED WITHIN A WEEK AND I BELIEVE THIS WAS THE DOING OF MY FATHER, HE PUSHED HIM BACK INTO LIFE, IT WAS NOT HIS TIME !! XXXXX
A TRIBUTE TO A WONDERFUL DAUGHTER / CHERYL STAPLES (MOTHER) MY PRECIOUS TAMMY, I AM NOT SURE HOW TO WRITE THIS,BUT I DO WANT YOU TO KNOW HOW VERY MUCH YOUR DAD AND I LOVED YOU AND CONTINUE TO LOVE YOU IN OUR HEARTS EACH AND EVERY DAY. TAMMY, YOU MADE ME LAUGH WHEN I DID NOT WANT TO.YOUR BUBBLY AND BEAUTIFUL SMILE WAS ALWAYS THERE ON THE OUTSIDE, EVEN WHEN YOU WERE HURTING AND SAD INSIDE. YOU ALWAYS TOLD ME YOU WANTED TO BE AS GOOD OF A MOTHER THAT YOU SAID I WAS. HONEY, GUESS WHAT YOU SURPASSED THAT BY FAR. YOU ALWAYS EXCELLED IN EVERYTHING YOU DID. I TALK TO YOUR TWO CHILDREN EVERYDAY OR SO ABOUT YOU, AND I ASSURE THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM EVEN NOW AND ARE ALWAYS LOOKING DOWN ON THEM WITH SMILES AND LOVE.HONEY, I GOT TO QUIT.I LOVE AND MISS YOU SOOOO BAD THAT IT LITERALLY HURTS PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. GOOD NIGHT MY PRECIOUS BABY GIRL. MOMClose
A little Early probably Easiest ! / MaryEllen Staples (Sister) Hey Sis, I cannot believe it, tomorrow will be 5 years to the very day that you went on to a better place. I think I am supposed to say that... because it looks positive but you know me - like you... I want to say what is on my mind. Actually tomorrow will be the day that monster unjustly, tragically, and brutally you took you away from us !! OK I feel better now. I know you are looking down smiling because we had the same outlook on life. Things don't seem to get easier but I just cope - I miss you more everyday - your memory is still and as vivid as if you were in the other room right now. I know to your babies it is not that way - I do what I can to keep your memory alive for them but sometimes I wonder is that what is best ?? But I try it anyway. Alyssa and Brittany remind me so much of you and they are growing so fast and turning into beautiful young ladies and Matthew is playing football and from what I hear he is pretty good - of course one of my hang ups is and I am sorry but Tammy I can't stand or sit at a ball game and watch your little boy play- my heart just aches and all I want to do is cry but I am working on those things and Alyssa will be singing at the fair this Saturday - again I will do my best to be there. Well that was my selfish condolence to myself for the 5th year anniversary of your departure. My little sister - I love you, I miss you, I need you, Mom needs you, your babies need you - we all need you and I know that can't happen but please look down on us sometimes and put that goofy smile back on face once in while that you were so good at ! Love, Mary Ellen Close
JUSTICE LATE AS USUAL...... / Mary Staples (Sister) My Dearest Tammy - I just finished reading an article where the Governor has signed a bill which increases the penalties for criminal domestic violence. It is amazing how mini bottle laws and so many other non violent laws seem to be pushed long before something as serious as criminal domestic violence. I know that everything happens for a reason and hind sight is 20/20 and all that jazz but I also know that had this law been in force - years ago like it should have been - you might still be here today for your three babies. I am disgusted with Justice - I have Faith in the Lord but my disgust runs deep the the judicial system especially in South Carolina. As the fate of your trial sits in the hands of the Supreme Court my heart aches and yearns to await the outcome if we have to go through another trial and look at that MONSTER !!!!Close
How Do You Even begin To Understand / Gary Miller (friend of Mary's )Read >>
How Do You Even begin To Understand / Gary Miller (friend of Mary's )
Mary-I just left your sister Tammy's memorial site. I don't know that I can begin to put into words the emotion I felt while reading & viewing everything. She was a very beautiful woman. The children are precious I will keep them in my prayers nightly. Im sure Tammy is in a better place now & the angels are singing her praises of a life cut short & a mother takin away far to young. I hope the person who did this will be put in jail forever for truly there is no just punishment on this earth. The good thing is one day he will stand before our Lord & he will be given the ultimate punishment then. I can tell that reading her story that you truly loved her. She was blessed to have someone to love her the way that you do. Anytime one so young is taken away it is truly a tradgedy & for one so young & so needed on earth we can only wonder what was God's ultimate plan. I couldn't write all that I wanted to write in the candle lighting so I thank you for giving me just a glimpse of who she was. I will keep her kids in my prayers and you that God will give you all peace that in his ultimate wisdom: there was a purpose maybe you won't understand it here on earth but when you see her again in heaven: she will say...well done my sister,well done. Ok I going to end for now- I was moved, it was hard to take and even harder to understand. Smile for she is in better PLACE. Close
Memories/ Beth Dowey McAndrews (friend)
Tammy and I met in 8th grade at Lugoff-Elgin Middle School and became instant friends. Throughout high school, we often spent nights at each others houses, and for a time we were "sisters-in- law once removed". We would spend many Friday and Saturday nights hanging out at the skating rink, or just at each others houses watching movies and pigging out on junk food and laughing. She had a great sense of humor and a beautiful smile.
When I got the phone call from my mother telling me of her brutal, senseless death, I felt as if I had been kicked in the stomach. I have spent many hours crying tears of sadness and anger over this tragedy. I hope this website will touch other lives as Tammy would have wanted and also educate others about the brutality of domestic violence. If it saves even one life, and spares even one person the sadness that all of us who miss Tammy feel, then her death was not in vain. Close
Hugs, Loves and Misses / Nina Yost (surrogate Big Sis ) It's always tough to think of our sisters gone... I'm glad we continue to keep their memories alive by never forgetting... I know too many people try to bury the past but we have to remain ever vigilant and keep their smiles shining...
Love and Miss you much, Hugs to the entire family... N~Close
I miss you Mommy !!!!! / Alyssa Staples (Daughter)Read >>
I miss you Mommy !!!!! / Alyssa Staples (Daughter)
Tributes and Condolences
THE RIBBON REPRESENTS A MURDERED CHILD 
IM SO SORRY FOR ALL OF YOU AND FOR THE SISTER WHO ALSO ALMOST LOST HER OWN LIFE THAT NIGHT WITH TAMMY,THIS IS SO SAD ,IT MADE TEARS IN MY EYES ,
GOD BLESS ,LOVE,HUGS,AND TEARS .FROM A MOM IN OHIO
Tammy- There are so many things that I need to talk to you about- So much to share with you - so much I feel you have missed out on......But yet I know that you are in a better place and watching over all of us - but these last couple months I can't seem to find comfort in that - I can't find comfort in the fact that you are not here - you are not at your children's birthdays - you are not going to be taking Brittany to the 8th grade on the first day of school or you won't be giving Alyssa words of advice for the world of middle school or encouraging Matt-Matt to do good and have fun - you won't be making that phone call you made every year on the evening before school starts and wishing Heather the best on her first day of school. As I sit here and cry I know things are what they are and nothing I can do will bring you back but I know Nana sure could use a Tams hug - WE ALL COULD ! So until that day we meet again - know that every minute of everyday you are thought of and missed more than words can describe. I love you so very much and more with each passing day. 
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